When you lose someone close to you, it can be difficult to cope. You can’t process the news and it can turn your world upside down. You don’t know how you will live without them and it can put you in a dark place. A lot of people go in a downward spiral after the death of someone close to them. They turn to alcohol, food or even drugs to help them cope with the loss. However, there are other ways of coping which can help you to try to put the pieces back together in your life. Here is how to cope with loss of a loved one.
Do something in their memory
For some people, they struggle to move on after the funeral. They believe they should now go back to living a normal life, but they can’t forget they have departed with someone they love which leads to them struggling during a dark time. One thing you can do if you are struggling to cope is to do something in their memory. It can give you some comfort and will help you to keep their memory alive. It might be that you donate some of their items to a charity they cared about. Or you could even give some of your own money or time for a charity. You might want to get something like a memorial bench which you can do in their memory and it’s a great place for you to sit and remember that special person. You could even get some memorial jewellery from a company like Ashes Memorial Jewellery. You then have a piece of jewellery with their ashes or hair which is close to you, so it can be comforting and feel like you still have your loved one with you. Whatever you decide to do to remember them, it can help you to cope and feel like you are still doing something for them.
Do talk to others
So many people close up when they have lost someone close to them. They pretend they are coping but are full of emotion that they are not releasing. It can then build up and cause you even more pain and misery. Therefore, to help you cope, you need to open up and talk about how you are feeling to someone. As it says on the NHS’s website, talking is a great way to soothe painful emotions. Therefore, make sure you do speak to a close friend or family member to help you release some of the emotion and get everything you are feeling out in the open. Talking it through will help you to come to terms with everything that happens. A loved one will be happy to listen to you while you unload. If you feel like you can’t talk to someone close to you, you can talk to a GP or a counsellor about how you are feeling. There are also many support groups out there you can attend and get support from others who have been through the grieving process. Having someone there who has been through a similar situation can help you cope as you see light at the end of the tunnel.
Try to keep your routine as normal as possible
After the loss of a loved one, it’s easy for your life to turn upside down. Your normal day goes out the window. But to help you cope, you need to try to get back to your routine as much as you can. As this article from https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/coping-with-grief-and-loss.htm explains, you can get comfort in routine such as getting back to your normal activities. For instance, if you have a sport you really enjoy, it’s worth going along during this tough time. Not only will it hopefully bring you a helpful distraction, but it will also help bring you a little happiness. You might not play to the best of your ability but doing something normal can give you comfort. It’s also important for your physical health to try to keep to a normal routine. You should try to get some sleep as fatigue can make the grieving process even worse. Also, try to eat and drink something at regular periods if you can. After all, if you are giving your body fuel, it can have a positive impact on your mind and help you to cope during this tough period. It will stop you relying on things like alcohol, caffeine and cigarettes to help you cope.